Dementia; What Spirit has taught me.

When in the process of Reading with someone & I receive my "fence" feeling, I have learned it only means one thing; Dementia.

Dementia is a term that is often associated with the cognitive decline of aging.  There are several issues that can cause dementia such as Alzheimer's, Huntington's Disease, Parkinson's Disease and Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease.  


Ok.  My "Fence" feeling.  It's the only way for me to describe the feeling I receive of someone being accessible to 2 different worlds; "Here" (our physical world) and 'There' (in Spirit).  It's like they are sitting on a tall fence.  They lean into either world - at any given moment.  For me, it also comes with a side of "fogginess".  Confuses me a bit because I'm not sure if the person has passed on yet or is still here in the physical world.  

The dementia patient, of course, does not have any control into which side they are leaning while stationed on this 'fence'.  

The closer the person gets to (physical) death, they do seem to become more aware of accessing these 2 worlds.  They begin verbalizing experiences that we just can't relate to, such as seeing vibrant colors or hearing Angels sing.  We experience them engaging in conversation with "Uncle Joe" or "Aunt Eva" who passed several years ago.  They may even ask us if we see "Grandma Davis" standing over in the corner.  Otherwise, they really have no recollection and both worlds are quite separate until this time.

Spirit has taught me not to be so upset when I am with family members and friends who are experiencing dementia, in any of it's forms.  In visiting with my grandmother years ago, I remember getting super upset when she would become aggravated.  It would provoke outbursts/mood swings.  Knowing what I know now, I often wonder if she was simply trying to go back to a place where she had more control of her life ~ of where she was leaning?  

When she would stare into space...or so I thought :) ~ perhaps she was having a mini-visit with my grandfather (who was in Spirit)?  

And when she was fully present - she was totally with me, with her soul secured in her physical body.


There was a woman whom I loved dearly.  She was my friend's grandmother.  I will call her "Maria".  
I watched Maria's dementia process from start to finish.  She progressed fairly rapidly from forgetfulness (such as leaving a pot of boiling water on the stove and forgetting it) to believing her newly formed truths (for example, thinking her daughter-in-law was trying to poison her).  It was the most demeaning, degrading and heartbreaking of life's unfoldings.  

About 2 weeks after Maria's passing, she came to me in a dream.  She was standing, arm in arm, with her husband!  She was smiling, vibrant and SO ALIVE!  She asked me to please let her daughter-in-law know that she never meant the words she had said to her.  She loved her.  She truly wanted for her daughter-in-law to move on from those negative moments.  

I remember how difficult it was for me to pass on those words - for her daughter-in-law had no idea of my Gift of Sensitivity.  But I knew in my heart and soul that it wasn't about me.  So, the next day I told her.  A very positive, life-changing experience for us both, gratefully.  :)

My advice for those of you currently caring for someone with any form of dementia - at any stage?  Know they are okay.  Pray for Grace and understanding  -  for both of you.  :)  
When they seem disconnected; know they are.  Patiently, wait for their return without hindering their soul's flight.  
And when they are fully present?  Tell them you love them.  

I welcome your feedback and encourage you to share your experiences in the comments below.

My love and God's Blessings to all of you,
Mary Rose xo


Side note:  Isn't it interesting that little children are so close to the veil, to Spirit - AND those who are in the later stages of life (no matter what age).  What happens to us in between those years?  What propels us to extend the gap between this (physical) life and the other?  

Take a moment to place your hands together, palm to palm, as if you're praying.  This is how close little children are to God, Spirit.  

Now, spread your arms out wide!  This is the gap that happens (for most of us) in our teens years - thru our 20s, 30s, and sometimes even in our 40s.  

Now, slowly bring your hands back together.  This is my example of the life circle closing and our spirits craving a closeness with God (again).  We are preparing ourselves for life, ever-after.